Everyone knows that warm fuzzy feeling you get when you first realize that you are falling in love (or so you think) with that particular someone. Everything seems to be perfect for the next week months of even 1-2 years but after the initial sparkles and happy dust settles, you may actually find out that you and your beau are not as compatible as you think. & then your dating cycle starts once again in search of the perfect someone to call your own.
I thank God for bringing SX into my life.
I was only 18 when he "met" me.
Want to know how we met?
I was only 18 when he "met" me.
Want to know how we met?
It was through the Internet.
If you want to be exact, he messaged me in Friendster
(if you don't know what it is, you are probably too young. HAHA).
He was there to guide me through my darkest moments and never afraid to hurt my ego. He makes me want to become a better person because I know he only wants the best for me. I've changed so much over the past 7 years we've been together.
My crazy temper.
My unreasonable thinking.
My childish demands.
It wasn't easy though and it didn't happen all at once. We compromised and learned how to love one another. How to show our concern in a way that works best for us. Even though our relationship is into the 8th year in November, we are still learning and improving our relationship everyday.
& just a couple of months ago, he asked me to spend the rest of my life with him.
& I said yes.
I wasn't that lucky in the dating department before I met my Fiance, SX. I've had my heart broken time after time as well because I got into a relationship too quickly and I didn't even cared if the guy was suitable for me. I just went with my heart and how I felt at that moment. And needless to say, after just 2-3 months, I could tell that I've definitely made a mistake because we were soooo different in our thinking as well as what we wanted in life that it was impossible for us to carry on being in the relationship.
SX & I are so alike and I know it can be both a positive or negative thing but I think being fairly similar has worked well for us. We enjoy doing the same things and get each other's humour and we understand each other's mind even without saying a word.
Having met the right person is not easy.
I mean, there is 7.125 billion people out there, which one of them is made for you?
Many readers have asked me, how to find love, they're shy and have been single for the longest time and they yearn for a partner too. They always ask me for advices and I'll usually say "meet more people" & some of them will tell me they don't have much friends or most of their friends are attached and don't have time to hang out.
I was pretty apprehensive about sharing a dating website to my readers because I'm sure everyone have read articles about how dating website can be dangerous and the chances of meeting someone for your is low, bla bla bla, all those negative stuff.
But I decided to personally try out eSynchrony and I was really surprised at how detailed and careful they are in choosing the perfect match for you.
So you can just check for any updates on the go!
eSynchrony makes sure their members are all serious daters who are professionals in their own field of work and all are verified by their consultants to make sure whatever information they have entered is legit.
eSynchrony is a trusted dating service so you don't have to worry much about fake identity or boastful claims and end up getting disappointed when you meet the person.
& here are 20 reasons why you should consider trying out eSynchrony if you are looking to meet the man or woman of your dreams.
There are also testimonials from singles who went on dates with the matches that eSynchrony paired them with.
& here's a couple who met through eSynchrony and are happily dating right now.
Alan & Erika were also matched by eSynchrony and they even have a family together.
So before you write off the idea of never meeting the one for you online...give eSynchrony a try.
I mean, what harm is there?!
1 - Signing up as a member of eSynchrony is free.
2 - Getting to know more people is nothing but beneficial for you if you are single and ready to find the one for you.
3 - & instead of going on blind dates set up by your friends, you can actually find out more about the person online before you decide or not if you want to meet them.
Like I've mentioned, I've decided to sign up for an account with eSynchrony to see how the whole system goes and let me walk you through the process!
I was first asked to fill up some personal details about my lifestyle and background.
Then about my appearance.
& the final step was to do a personality test for the system to match you & the other singles in their database!
It was a pretty detailed test where I had to answer questions about myself as well as how I would like my future partner to behave? Some questions had me pondering for a long time and some where so easy and direct.
I completed the personality test in about 20 minutes or so and that was it!
My account was ready for eSynchrony to match me up! Haha.
eSynchrony recommend matches to you via a special algorithm that they have and with the personality test you've taken earlier, they are able to match you with the most compatible singles!
And every day, they will be searching for new compatible matches for you.
You'll even receive a call from their consultant to find out more about your preference as they really want to match the most ideal members for you!
& after getting matched with the most compatible members on eSynchrony, you will get notifications daily on the matches! You'll be able to view their profiles to better understand them before you decide if you want to approve them for a meet up.
Once both parties has agreed for a meet up, you'll receive a SMS via eSynchrony to arrange a date for the meal and just turn up on the day itself and enjoy the first date!!
In my opinion, this online and offline matchmaking service is pretty cool because I've heard cases where ladies chats with a guy online for months and think that they really hit it off but when they eventually met up for the first time, everything just fell apart and was so disappointing to know that they've wasted months talking to each other hoping it could turn out to be something more.
& when the date is over, you can give your feedback (positive and negative) and they will actually refine your matching criteria based on that to arrange for an even more suitable match for future dates!
So this is how my account looks like.
& as you can see, there were already 19 proposed matches for me when I just joined.
One of the cons of traditional online dating is how blinded we get by the superficial judgements. We are misled by the photos and information provided by the other party and we have no idea how compatible we are with the other singles in the database and all these can be a huge obstacle in finding that soulmate of yours.
& you can view the member's account to get more information about them before you decide if you want to "approve" them.
& there are also pending matches for me to approve, meaning the members who are keen to meet up with me and are waiting for my approval before we set a date.
(& obviously, I'm just trying out the system & am very happily engaged so before anyone starts screaming at me for going on dating website.. chill ok? I'm just trying it out to see how it works before I recommend it you you guys)
All you hopeful singles out there, don't give up because you never know where fate can lead you to.
If you told me years ago that the man I will be marrying is someone I met on the internet, I would be skeptical too. But look at us now. I couldn't be happier! Though SX didn't use a dating website but it took all his courage to send me a message online.
So, take that leap of faith, sign up to eSynchrony and who knows your happy ever after is waiting for you right there. <3
Click on the image above to watch the video of their Video Contest - I'm a Bad Date Survivor!
You can win prizes
(2D1N stay at Hotel Re! and 12 months unlimited eSynchrony Dating package)
just by sharing the video on your social media platform & hashtag it #esynchrony #baddatesurvivor and leave a comment on your personal bad date experience!
Stay tuned for the next video for more chances to win!!